"Let him that would move the world,

                                           first move himself."
                                                 Socrates

Making the first move into therapy is a difficult step to take; talking to someone you don't know is a daunting task. It is a risk you take, because you know you need another point of view during difficult times. Knowing that you need this other perspective is a strength, not a weakness, a well known truth in the mental health field.  Moving yourself out of static unchanging patterns is difficult. To make improvements in your life, you have to create the time and place, to examine, and explore. You know, it is your life. 

Most would say that we don't get to choose where we come from, or undo mistakes we've made, but we can make choices in building fulfilling lives. Sometimes the truth doesn't feel good. Sometimes you have to admit that you aren't a perfect person, that everyone makes mistakes. Mistakes often pave the way to second chances. Mistakes highlight what needs to change. The only problem is, that sometimes you make the same mistakes over and over again. Have you ever had the experience of knowing that what you are about to say isn't going to have an impact, but you say it anyway, and the same thing happens over again? Habits, thoughts and actions are hard to change. Those around you do not benefit from your inflexible perspective. So what are you repeating? A pattern, something you heard repeatedly?
More importantly, can you give up what doesn't work?

Communication is crucial in all relationships; and we can continue to increase connective skills throughout our lives. Each person has the potential to grow. There are those of us who are shy, there are those of us who are bold. You may find yourself taking an extreme position, fighting with ultimatums, opposition, and then put on hold your own innate ability to adapt and negotiate, succumbing to blaming the other, fighting, criticizing, and suffering.   
Take a chance, and tap into your desire to be ever moving, shifting, and adapting, increasing the fluidity of your life. Change is what keeps us vital, so discover, investigate, question, seek out and begin.

The summer has a different pace. It has its own 
timeframe and feel, it is slower and brighter. There 
is less pressure on the family, not as many time 
constraints. Some may have difficulty with the lack 
of structure. When there isn't structure from the 
outside, how do you define yourself? Summer can 
be a time of restructuring, finding more within, 
developing creativity, reading, and gathering 
new information.